Brief summary and Follow up after our 2021/03/30 Group call

Some phrases we wanted to be sure to note:

Intention:

Three words for example, Forgiveness, kindness, compassion,

High performance habit: REVIEW

 How am I doing in terms of my intention, that which matters to me? 

We're creating our future based on our intention. How am I growing that now? How did I become more of myself?

 What steps might we want to be focused on currently so that our future self says, "boy, I'm sure glad you committed to your self and your growth!"

How do we maintain our own state, even when all about you people might not be keeping theirs?

We've got the facts on the one hand and the feelings on the other.

Am I solving a problem or attending to a person? 

There's 1) the real life issue, and then there's 2) the person's feeling about it, which could be quite different.  

Suggestion: Repeat back some of the persons words about their feelings so that they know they have been heard, and if/when the timing feels right,(they mau breathe more deeply or sigh) Ask " Given that (their words, their words, their words, )What would you like to have happen?"

""Let me check". You're finding out what happened, with an intention to understand. Help me to understand your feelings?

It is not suggested to actually say these words-(Would you like to keep poking your finger in this bruise?) however, you get thei idea.  " If there could be a solution, would you like it?"

What would you like to do or what would you like to have happen, ideally? 

What's the best case scenario? (A) variety of ways of basically asking, what do you want here?)

We discussed the two questions that can provide support, gather more information and protect the solution person from providing solutions too soon or univited are:

Is there anything else about (X)?

What kind of (X)?

X = their words.

Resource: Allison Armstrong Understanding men Class

Resource Buy nothing groups

Resource: Brene Brown